What I’ve learnt about men and women over the last few weeks
(the result of heart-to-heart chats with my newly-single/depressed girlfriends either on MSN or in person)
Disclaimer: The following are just random observations based on our very own experiences. They do not necessarily apply to the entire human population on planet Earth.
1. Women will hang on to a relationship even when they know the man they are with is not “The One” – for the sake of sentimentality, love, comfort, familiarity, responsibility, and of course, the classic reason “since I’ve already invested so much, I might as try to make it work”.
2. Men are able to detach and move on after a breakup. Fast. Women, unfortunately, are less successful in this aspect.
3. Women think and feel with their hearts; men think and feel with their OTHER head.
4. Men are heartless, cruel and ruthless when it comes to breaking up (I choose not to elaborate on this because, I mean, WHERE do I even start??)
5. Men are selfish. They put themselves and their feelings in first priority without much consideration for their women. They MUST do what they think is right at that moment; there is no turning back, there is no point in trying to work things out and give it another go.
6. Men will justify their heartless, bastardy behaviour by telling women that “it is only for your own good, I only want you to move on”.
7. It is not wise for women to assume that the man they have been with for X number of years will always be a constant in their lives. Never get too safe, never be too secure.
8. People change. Overnight. Men and women alike, but men most of the time.
9. There is no point searching for reasons or answers, sometimes we women have to accept that things just happen and that’s that.
And finally… my most salient point of this post:
10. Women should NEVER assume that they know their man inside and out after an X-year relationship – men have an incredible ability to reveal different sides of themselves as circumstances change, i.e. when the going gets tough.
P.S. Does anyone have anything else to add? :)
After all this time
I never thought we’d be here
Never thought we’d be here
When my love for you is blind
But I couldn’t make you see it
Couldn’t make you see it
That I loved you more than you’ll ever know
When part of me died when I let you go.
Lifehouse – “Blind”
Just a *tad* genderly biased there, I thinks. :)
Here’s my opinion on guys in general in comparison to yours:
- I agree with points 1, 2, and 3
- 4 I completely disagree with. Outside perceptions (ie, what girls would see) and what a guy feels are completely different. At least, I’d hope that’s the case.
- 5 I can see that being true, but either because they don’t want to make the problem worse by consoling, or because they need to get over it themselves first
- 6 is a lame excuse that ANYONE would use if they thought they were guilty
- 7 to 10 I agree with, though 7 and 10 seem to be starkly similar. :)
- I like to think that I’m NOT like these guys you’ve described. :D
By: fubuki on February 14, 2009
at 9:09 pm
i agree. the relationship is not a constant.
it is a process.
processes include change.
perhaps, not the right one yet. then again, how would we know which is the right one.
there are no answers to a lot of things.
moving on is a process, for a better fit in the universe.
women can do it, with or without their men.
By: paper_rabbit on February 14, 2009
at 11:33 pm